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Monday, February 29, 2016

A rough one..

Today is a rough one for me. I am really feeling the strain of losing my mother. It feels as though the whole world is against me today or at least pulling at me in one way or another. This is one of my bad days. I want to curl up in a ball in a corner and just be left alone. I don't know how to feel, what to say or how deal with normal daily life today. I have lost my appetite for the day, but knowingly I'm making myself eat because I know I have too. Today is the hardest day yet I have had through this experience. If I could give anything today I would give everything to just be able to sit down and talk to my MOM. People will tell you that they can help or that it's just one day, but today leads to tomorrow and if you don't get what your thinking and feeling under control it will just continue. They say that when you miss someone to think of all the good things. Good memories and things like that, but some days it just makes things worse. My mother was my go to person, my best friend and the woman I looked up to, knowing I don't have that anymore just feels like the bricks falling on my heart. Today feels like the perfect day to throw all cares away and just get drunk. I know this is not the answer or any way of going about fixing and problems so for that reason I will not do this, but that's how I can sum up my feelings for today. The odd part is my day started out OK, I mean I felt off, but was still pretty happy. I did some work on starting my business, but as the night goes on, the thoughts and feeling flood through my mind and heart. The only thing I can keep telling myself is that at 30 years old it shouldn't have this effect on me. I don't have time for this in my life, well like I've said before mourning comes in waves and this is a big one.. Tomorrow I will probably wake up peachy keen and in a great mood. It's just a rough one...

My mother was beautiful, selfless, tough and humble. She always looked mad, but you could never tell by her voice if she was. My mother never really showed or voiced any emotions. She never told you if you were a bad person, she always tried to see the good in people. I remember growing up my mother found out I smoked, she never said anything to me about it. One day when I went back into the house because I forgot my cigarettes she just had this sarcastic way of letting me know I was doing something she didn't really approve up, but couldn't really tell me I couldn't because she did. My mother didn't look down on us kids for our choices in life, she believed in us learning from our own mistakes. My biggest fear in life use to be ending up like her, but the older I get I wish I was more like her than I am. She was an awesome mother, grandmother, aunt and sister and I wouldn't have chosen anyone else to be like. 

Saturday, February 27, 2016

Catching up!!!

I haven't posted in this Blog since I started it, and I'm not sure why.. I know why, I found something to occupy my time and make me not think about what had just happened in my life. It still isn't necessarily a realization that my mother is even gone. Ever day since I have woke up in her home and it's as if she is still here. I know she will not get out of bed for the day, but that is OK with me. The realization doesn't actually set in until I need someone to talk to about things in life. My mother bless her heart was my best friend and most of the time what felt like my only friend. When life gave me problems I went to my mother. If you think about it we are generally and I know not in all cases, we are raised to depend on our mothers. If you can't find something you ask mom, if you need and opinion you ask mom, if you know you did something you shouldn't you hope your mom will save you. When you are sick you want your mom, when you are scared you look to your mom to save you. It's all about our programming as children, and woman are suppose to be the nurturer in life.




I will write a lot about my mother because she is the person closest to me that I lost next to my Aunt Pam, those women where the two women that I looked up to in life. Everything in this blog can go for anyone that you have lost in your life. As I sit here and look at my daughter I just hope that when it becomes my time that I have prepared her enough in life to deal with it and manage with out me in life. I know that she independent enough and will live on with out me, but I hope that it isn't as tough on her as it was me. I know this will not happen and in a way I will be glad for that, but again it too breaks my heart a little.

I will end this on a positive note though. No matter what happens in life whether now or 20 years from now, I can truly say that my mother will still be there to guide me and show me the way. Even though she isn't here in person I know she is with me where ever I go and is always looking over our family and without saying a word giving us the answers we need.