When you experience a major loss in life it can flip your entire world upside down. It can make you question a lot in your life. For instance who you are, where your at in life, what could have been different and the hardest thing I believe is will that happen to me. Everyone is well aware that at some point in life everyone leaves. As we all know that every life must come to an end. We as humans start fading away the day we are born, it's just part of nature. When the time comes that someone you love leaves you for eternity there are things everyone should remember and to me the biggest thing is not to make and major or hasty decisions in life.
They say you should wait at least 6 months to make any major choices after losing a loved one. The rule of thumb is to wait until you have went through the roller-coaster of emotions that is entailed with this loss. The main thing you want to worry about is yourself. If you are not well then you can not make any informed decisions. If there is something you want to do after your loss, like perhaps wanting to move for some reason, it is wise to make the choice so that it is reversible. Like going to stay some where else for a while, but if you change your mind you would still have the option to return to your original setting. I can definitely see why this is important to remember. You may not know that I currently live in Michigan, but since my mothers passing I have been in Missouri. I love it here and feel closer to my mother, it's like I know she is still in this house. I have thought about moving here, because when I went home for a few days I felt lost, but I know for my own personal reasons I can not stay here.
I know I started trying to make all these hasty decisions and once I started trying to work on them, I get over stressed and it's just not worth it. I wanted to start my business up that I had been working on for years, I even went as far as making up the business plan to present to the loaner and everything. I made a logo. That didn't last very long so that got thrown out the window. I then tried getting back into school so that way I could finish my Bachelors in Business Management to continue to run my father's business, but that too fell through: 1) my dad gave up on the business, something he worked hard at and wanted for a lot of years and 2) I owed money for past classes,because well neither the school or I are perfect. I did make the decision to get married and that is the one major decision I made right after my mother left us that has stuck. It's isn't going perfectly as planned,but that's just how it goes. Yes I wish she was here too celebrate it with me, but then again if it wasn't for her passing I may have never made it to this point.
I suggest you write everything you want to do or plan to do down after the loss of a loved one. The smaller ones you can start with but I say wait 3 months, go back to the list and see how you still feel about it. If then you still feel comfortable starting one of the middle tasks go head, but make sure you didn't give up on the little project first. If you did, you most likely are not ready for anything bigger. The next mark would be the 6 month part. If you can wait the full six months to come back to the list awesome, but if not, now is the time to see how and where you are on the other projects you started and go from there. If you get to the 6 month mark and you are doing good with stress and taking care of yourself and you come back to this list, pick anything off the list you want to do and go for it. The majority of people are not done grieving in the 6 months time so it may take you longer to start things and that's OK. Just please take the advise and not jump into anything you may regret in a short period of time.
They say you should wait at least 6 months to make any major choices after losing a loved one. The rule of thumb is to wait until you have went through the roller-coaster of emotions that is entailed with this loss. The main thing you want to worry about is yourself. If you are not well then you can not make any informed decisions. If there is something you want to do after your loss, like perhaps wanting to move for some reason, it is wise to make the choice so that it is reversible. Like going to stay some where else for a while, but if you change your mind you would still have the option to return to your original setting. I can definitely see why this is important to remember. You may not know that I currently live in Michigan, but since my mothers passing I have been in Missouri. I love it here and feel closer to my mother, it's like I know she is still in this house. I have thought about moving here, because when I went home for a few days I felt lost, but I know for my own personal reasons I can not stay here.
I know I started trying to make all these hasty decisions and once I started trying to work on them, I get over stressed and it's just not worth it. I wanted to start my business up that I had been working on for years, I even went as far as making up the business plan to present to the loaner and everything. I made a logo. That didn't last very long so that got thrown out the window. I then tried getting back into school so that way I could finish my Bachelors in Business Management to continue to run my father's business, but that too fell through: 1) my dad gave up on the business, something he worked hard at and wanted for a lot of years and 2) I owed money for past classes,because well neither the school or I are perfect. I did make the decision to get married and that is the one major decision I made right after my mother left us that has stuck. It's isn't going perfectly as planned,but that's just how it goes. Yes I wish she was here too celebrate it with me, but then again if it wasn't for her passing I may have never made it to this point.
I suggest you write everything you want to do or plan to do down after the loss of a loved one. The smaller ones you can start with but I say wait 3 months, go back to the list and see how you still feel about it. If then you still feel comfortable starting one of the middle tasks go head, but make sure you didn't give up on the little project first. If you did, you most likely are not ready for anything bigger. The next mark would be the 6 month part. If you can wait the full six months to come back to the list awesome, but if not, now is the time to see how and where you are on the other projects you started and go from there. If you get to the 6 month mark and you are doing good with stress and taking care of yourself and you come back to this list, pick anything off the list you want to do and go for it. The majority of people are not done grieving in the 6 months time so it may take you longer to start things and that's OK. Just please take the advise and not jump into anything you may regret in a short period of time.
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